Gather photos and memorabilia to display

Having photos of the deceased and memorabilia from their life at funeral services and visitations can be a nice option as it can tell the story of a person’s life and remind others of better days. Certain memorabilia, such as military medals and other honors, or things such as a favorite golf club or musical instrument, can prompt stories of remembrance from those who attend and shift the focus to the person’s life, rather than death. If the deceased was skilled at a craft, displaying some of their work can add a personal touch to the event. In cases when a child passes, including a favorite stuffed animal, book, or toy can help loved ones feel as though they have surrounded the child with things they loved.

Pictures

When choosing which pictures to share as executor, it is wise to ask family and friends to help. You might try to include photos from throughout the person’s life so that those who only knew the deceased during a certain time period will have a chance to see him/her at other times. You might choose to select photos where the deceased is with loved ones and friends who were especially important to him/her. While there are no rules here, you likely will want to make sure the photos used aren’t ones that would be embarrassing to the person or others who are in the photo. You also should select photos you have duplicates of or can have copies made in case the photos are damaged or lost at the funeral home or in transit. Keep in mind, too, that if you create a collage and use tape or glue, some of the photos might tear upon removal. Most photo shops can scan and make copies of a photo within a day or even an hour, so duplicating special photos and using copies can be a great solution and give you the peace of mind that the originals will not be lost or damaged.

Videos

Another option is creating a video. You might already have videos of the deceased and can edit those to create a shorter collection of moments. Or you can set still photographs to music and create a video from them. A short, two- to four-minute video is probably best, because it will allow those attending to watch it in its entirety. Set the video so that it plays on an endless loop so you don’t have to worry about it. If you don’t have the energy – which is completely understandable – or the ability to create a collage or video, talk to the funeral director. In some cases, if you provide them with photos they will arrange the photos in the funeral home and/or make a video of remembrance. They also can typically arrange to have video-playing equipment onsite.

Memorabilia

When it comes to displaying memorabilia, you also will want to make sure safeguards are in place if these items are dear to you. If an item is very breakable, it might be best left at home so that someone doesn’t accidentally break it. If it is deeply treasured and you would be heartbroken if it was lost, the same might be best. In these cases, consider taking a photo of the item and sharing it that way. A mix of photos and special items placed on a table at services can be a nice addition. If you do choose to have a memory table as such, consider adding some blank index cards and pens and ask people to write down any special memories or thoughts they have about the deceased. These cards will likely become cherished mementos for family, as well.

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