This article by Executor.org also appeared in the Huffington Post.
Whether it’s due to pride, a desire to maintain their independence, or forgetfulness, if you have aging parents there are likely things they aren’t telling you. And that can be both troubling and dangerous.
In this new blog series, What Your Aging Parents Aren’t Telling You, by executor.org, we look at issues and problems that could be happening in your aging parent’s life that they are not telling you about — and offer solutions to help manage these situations.
“I am Incontinent.”
When people discuss the things that scare them about aging, the idea of not having control over one’s bladder is typically among the pack. We dread the idea of going into a store and buying adult diapers. We worry that if we have to wear them that everyone will be able to tell. We fear that the day will come when we are unaware that we have soiled ourselves. And when we think about it, we imagine that when we get to that point, our life may not be worth living.
Of course, that’s not the case. But if your parent is struggling with bladder control they might be embarrassed to talk about it because of the perceptions about the problem. Here’s a few ways to help them if you suspect incontinence is an issue.
Recent research indicates that as many as 65 million American adults experience bladder leakage – that’s about 1 in 4 adults, with woman experiencing the problem at significantly higher levels. It is not an easy conversation and it requires tact and thoughtfulness, so avoid making your parent feel badly about the matter or implying they can control it if they tried harder.
Incontinence can affect people at all ages for many different reasons. And people live very normal, active lives despite the condition. If you suspect your parent is incontinent, it can be a tough topic to bring up. But it is important to do so so that your parent can enjoy a full and active life.